How to save a relationship/marriage

Why do over 50% of all marriages end in divorce?

Do couples really try to make their marriages work, or are they just lazy?

Is filing for divorce easier and end the marriage than to stick around and try to sort it?

Or do they try and make it work and fail because they don't know how to save a marriage?

Ever heard the saying "You reap what you sow." Well, that saying applies to marriage as much as it does to anything else. If you work hard at strengthening your marriage now, you won't have to struggle to save it in the future.

Communication, consideration and compassion are the keys of a happy and healthy marriage. Your spouse should be the one person you can always confide and talk too, the one that give the other unconditionally love and udnerstanding, and the one person they can rely on no matter what.

If you are trying to save your marriage at all costs, this is the type of relationship you need.

All marriages are based on communication. If you can't talk to your spouse you need sort this out immediately. Whatever your issues are, you need to learn how to talk to them and listen to your partner - really listen - hear what they are saying and you deserve the same in return. A successful marriage is impossible without communication.

Lack of consideration for each other is sadly another thing people do in a failing marriage some people treat the people they work with better than they treat the people they are married to. You have to start being more considerate of their feelings and show them that their opinions and feelings do matter to you. .

Take yourself back to when you married your partner - you found them attractive - face it you wouldn't have married them otherwise. When was the last time you told them how much you loved them, or gave them a cuddle. As human beings we are all insecure and all need reassurance so start today and tell and show your partner how much you love them - it doesn't cost anything to give them a hug or a kiss, tell them they are looking sexy or gorgeous - it's such an ego boost and will help you both to strengthen the relationship.

You made a commitment to that person when you got married, so reaffirm that commitment, sit down and make a pact to strengthen your marriage and start talking and hearing what the other person is saying.

Nothing in life is easy, and neither is marriage - you have to work hard to have a healthy and secure marriage, build a strong foundation that nothing or no one can break.

Bear in mind if you can't sit down and talk there are organisations that can help, like Relate - who are trained in helping you learn how to listen and really hear your partner and understand them more.

At the end of the day - you don't have to give up - happiness can be achieved.